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monitoring the weather channel during the days before a flight insisting on flying on certain types of aircraft which they regard as more safe
asking to see pictures of the pilot's children (on the theory that if he/she has children, that's more motivation to live!)
avoiding conversation during takeoffs and landings so they can "monitor" the procedures
wearing "lucky" clothes, avoiding "unlucky" days and flight numbers, and engaging in a variety of rituals
pretending they are not on a plane, or forcing themselves to think about something else
playing loud music on their headphones, in order to prevent themselves from thinking about the flight
tensing up their body
holding the armrest in a death grip
refusing to move from their seat during the flight trying hard to appear unafraid
sedating themselves with alcohol and/or tranquilizers and a variety of other activities, most of which maintain and increase a person's anxiety level, rather than decrease it.
HOW DO PEOPLE GET OVER THIS FEAR?
A fearful flyer generally needs an entirely new strategy for tackling this problem, because the solutions a fearful flyer usually tries tend to make the fear worse, not better. It's a case of "the harder I try, the worse it gets",Thus if you feel that you are a "victim" you have the power to change your reality. (If you want to learn more about this paradoxical aspect of anxiety.
In general, this means you need to get better at accepting the role of a passenger. A passenger is a person who presents himself/herself at the gate and turns over the responsiblity of flying to those who are trained and paid to do the job; who makes no effort to control that which he cannot control,5879 Ugg Classic Cardy Chocolate Boots; and whose only job during the flight is to wait, while allowing himself/herself to be as comfortable as possible. As a passenger, you are literally "baggage that breathes"! As a passenger, you need to know how to accept and work with your emotions and fears, rather than resist them.
CAN I GET OVER THIS?
In my work with fearful flyers, I see people who haven't flown for twenty years, or even longer; and I see people who fly more than a hundred thousand miles a year, because their work demands it. They're all afraid, frustrated, and skeptical when they come to me. The ones who haven't flown for a long time often can't even imagine ever getting on a plane. The ones who are still flying wonder why all that flying doesn't help them become less afraid, and despair of ever feeling better. I can tell you, however, that the great majority of these people make an excellent recovery and resume flying in relative comfort.
At the Anxiety Treatment Center, we offer classes for fearful flyers several times each year. In this program, we teach people a general strategy for being a passenger, and many specific coping techniques. We teach people ways to cope with their anticipatory anxiety in the days and weeks ahead of a flight, as well as the anxiety they experience during the flight.
We also meet with a pilot, who answers the group's questions about safety, how flying works, what all those noises mean, and so on. We then fly together on a regularly scheduled commercial flight to a city about one hour away. We use this flight, and the return trip,SO WHAT'S THE ANSWER, as an opportunity for people to practice the skills they have learned in the class.